Yep, the other morning I woke up and found one of my friends on Facebook asked that inevitable question: “When do children stop believing in Santa?”
This is a really hard question to justify. I love Christmas. I love the magic of Christmas and to the point where I would say: I believe the magic of Christmas – but do I believe in Santa? That’s a conundrum.
So I’ve asked my fellow bloggers the same question and here’s what they have to say…
Kate: I’m sorry! What? Kate – age 35 – fivelittlestars.com
Sophie: My sister in law was questioning Santa at 9 years old. We still continued with the traditions and I think she secretly wasn’t sure whether he really was real or not. It’s hard when they are at school and some children know and some don’t but we wanted to keep the magic alive as long as possible. – sophobsessed.com
Donna: My son is nearly 7 and he’s asked a few questions, but still accepts my answers. He says some kids in his class don’t believe now though so I think this might be our last year 😭 – Bobsysmum.co.uk
Emma: I was ten and I was told at school by friends, I went home and asked my mom and Dad and they told me that it was true..Father Christmas wasn’t real. I was devastated! – Readyfreddiego.com
Jen: My son is 12 and has autism so goes to a special school and his world is very black and white. This year is the first year he has asked questions as he is very bright and said it wasn’t possible for one man to remember everyone and if they had been good! He hasn’t questioned flying reindeer or getting into your house though 😂😂😂😂
Beth: My son is 9 in a few weeks and still completely & utterly believes in it all. I hope this isn’t our last year as it’s so lovely to see them all so excited. – twinderelmo.co.uk
Babs: My son is 13 and i refuse to say those word “santa is not real”. I know he doesn’t believe but i want to keep the magic alive for as long as possible. – depressedhousewife.com
Debbie: When they are about 8 they start to question it, but then I totally believe they come through the other side and start to believe in the magic of Christmas like many adults do. I know Santa isn’t real but I still buy into the magic and I hope my boys will do too. – myboysclub.co.uk
Laura: We told our daughter last year at 3. She asked if he was real and we said no. To be honest, a big old guy coming into a kids room is just weird, so I was quite chuffed. She likes the magic of Christmas but knows that we buy presents. – savings4savvymums.co.uk
Emmy: I believe I was around 11 before I declared him imaginary. I’m going to teach my son that santa is a feeling, not a person. It’s up to all of us to keep that going and once he’s on the “in crowd” it’s even more exciting making people happy. But at the same time: “may you never be too old to search the skies on Christmas Eve” – misadventurousmummy.com
Kate: They don’t because they know better than to destroy the magic for their Mum. –kateonthinice.com
Hollie: My husband and I have agreed that the first year my eldest starts to question the big guy’s existence, that’s when we’re going to take our family to Lapland. There’s only 14 months between my boys so hopefully this will keep the magic going a bit longer for our youngest. – thriftymum.com
Emma: I don’t plan on telling my children for a good few years. I think my eldest (7) will start questioning it in the next year or two but I plan to hold onto the magic as long as possible for them, and I hope to recruit him to help ‘as santa’ once he does know, so that it can still be magical for his younger brother and sister – evenangelsfall.com
Pete: My oldest is 8 and she still believes. She has heard from some older people at school that he isn’t real, but she is ignoring them for now. – householdmoneysaving.com
Leanne: My niece is a firm believer. She is 8 this year and still very much into it. Last year she came home from school and said someone had told her Santa wasn’t real, her reply to them was don’t be so stupid, of course he’s real! Absolutely no doubt there yet at all. –asliceofmylifewales.com
Leigh: Our eldest is 8 yrs old and he twigged just after last Christmas that Santa wasn’t real. The tooth fairy took a dive that day too, it was pretty harsh. The younger two (4 and 6yrs old) are still firm believers and we’ve told the eldest that he now has a special job keeping the magic alive for his little brother and sister. – dadgeek.co.uk
Kelly: My daughter who is older than her brother took great delight in informing him that Santa was not real, when he was 8. I feel so short changed that I cannot see the magic in his face with the naughty Elf on the Shelf ( I have fab ideas!) And the making of magic reindeer food is no more 😢 – reducedgrub.com
Shamaila: My son is 11 this is him on Saturday, his face says it all! He must have been around 8 when he realized Santa is not real but because there are 4 years between him and his little sister he won’t spoil it for her and still goes along with it all. – tripupsandtripsout.wordpress.com
Veronica: Children stop believing in Santa the moment they talk about it in school. They may also learn about Saint Nicholas in school. – myparentingjourney.com
Vikki: We have tried so hard to keep our children innocent so they can continue to enjoy the magic. They are Home educated which makes it easier for us to keep the big secret! My son is 11 and this is the first year he doesn’t believe but he’s very excited to keep it going for his little sister. – familytravelwithellie.com
Jennie: My oldest two are 7 and I am hoping that they will believe for a few more years yet but I am also looking forward to sharing the magic with them of creating Christmas memories for their younger siblings and in time children of their own. Father Christmas the person may not be real, but the magic of the season is if you believe it to be so. Making and giving at Christmas is even more fulfilling and rewarding than believing and receiving. I hope the transition for my little ones will be gentle when the time comes – edspire.co.uk
Rachel: I was 12 when I stopped believing – first Xmas at secondary school. Someone told me & i pretended I knew – I didn’t and I was devastated! – coffeecakekids.com
Luschka: I think ‘believing’ is a relative term. My 8 year old totally believes in Santa, even though she knows he’s not a red-clothed, bearded man who comes down the non-existent chimney. You can believe in the idea and the mystery and the magic of Santa without believing in the personage. – diaryofafirstchild.com
Cathryn: My daughter (eldest of three) is very nearly eight and the doubts are starting to creep in. One of the girls in her class told her last Christmas that he wasn’t real – I was gobsmacked as they were only in year two – but she refused to believe her friend. I am hoping we can get another couple of years of magic! She’s the kind of girl who will keep on pretending for her younger brothers though. My worry for my younger children is that they will find out sooner because they have so many older children in their lives.
I have two friends with ten year olds who have just had the conversation about him not being real. They are in year six and I think that’s a good age. Both of my friends said they didn’t want their children going off to high school still believing and being teased for it. – cardiffmummysays.com
Laura: I think a lot of children start to have doubts earlier than we would like them to, I know my son was around 8 when his friends started to tell him he wasn’t real. I think as parents it’s our job to keep that magic alive for as long as possible and actually, even though my eldest is now 13. I still won’t admit to him that Father Christmas isn’t real!! – fivelittledoves.com
Lindsay: My eldest is 15 and when she was about 8 she started questioning it from people at school saying he was not real. She was 11 when she properly knew he wasn’t real. She still gets excited though at Xmas. – newcastlefamilylife.co.uk
Jayne: My eldest is 7 and still believes. I will do all I can to keep the magic happening for as long as possible! – stickymudandbellylaughs.com
Katie: I still believe and I’m 32. I don’t think a little magic in our lives is a bad thing. – mummyinatutu.co.uk
Helen: My eldest is 5 1/2 and still firmly believes! I know friends with older children say theirs have been about 8 when they’ve started having doubts! So long as my eldest keeps the magic going for her little brother when she figures it out! I’m sure she will. x – talkingmums.com
Clare: My eldest is 11 and this is the first year he’s admitted he doesn’t believe. I think he stopped believing last year but didn’t want to spoil the magic! My 8 year absolutely believes and won’t have anyone tell her he’s not real, she’s so sure of herself which is lovely. – mymoneycottage.com
Star: I took my kids to Lapland to Santas house last January! Even I believe now! My kids are 11 and 13 but you cant not believe if you meet the man! – autismkidsontour.com/2017/01/10/our-fun-day-with-santa
Tracey: The same as Star we also took our two to Lapland to see the big man – this was 6 years ago. The children are now 11 and 9 – both still believe, because they met him. I’ll never tell them differently 😊 – packthepjs.com
Luan: Mine stopped believing by their last year of primary school. So, around 9. They might have stopped earlier but they didn’t let on 💗 – alifeoflovely.com
Fran: My 9 year old questioned me out the blue the other week. I panicked and asked her what she thought and she said she thought he was real, but if she doesn’t believe then he can’t bring presents. I then legged it!! – backwithabump.co.uk
Jade: I think there is a time when all kids stop believing but they don’t admit it for a while. I pieced things together as a kid and knew at about age 8 but like hell I was telling anyone I was I think maybe 11 12 well I admitted I knew. I still kept the magic going though and Santa still brings me my stocking. x – jadeslongjourney.co.uk
Kelly: No idea. I still believe haha! I tell my kids that too, but I know their friends don’t. I think it depends on the environment and their personality… But I hope mine continue to believe like me 😁 – kellyallenwriter.com
Jennifer: I’m pretty sure my ten year old has it dissed but plays along for his seven year old sister who is still a believer. So somewhere in between 7 and 10 in our house! – mymummyspennies.com
Susan: My oldest is going to be 11 on Xmas eve & still believes for now. I’m hoping I get this Christmas with him believing, but I’ll have to tell him after it. I can’t have him going to high school & not knowing. I still think it’ll be magical & I think he has some suspicions. I just hope he doesn’t tell his younger siblings. I am sure I was 10 when I knew for sure. I pretended the first year to my mum, but I had my suspicions. – susankmann.com
So here you have it – The Christmas Santa enigma.
What about you – how do you feels about the existence of Santa?
Do You believe in Santa Claus?
Happy Christmas Everyone!
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