She points out 6 inspirational tips to how to deal with kids when it come down to being firm.
This has got me thinking back on what had happened today. Inside a busy Marks & Spencer Evelyn and I entered, and she was almost immediately faced with a gigantic Frozen Castle Easter Eggs style on the shelf and it was within her reach! She instantly grabbed it and said:
“I want it!”
I knelt down and said to her calmly as I can that she can’t have it as it is not her birthday yet and she won’t get a birthday party otherwise. Then I pulled a said face at her. She quickly snapped back at me:
“No! I DON’T want a birthday party! I want this!” She stomp her feet hard against the ground and moving a step back away from me.
I took a deep breath and in a deep voice, I told her to listen to mummy again and repeated what I had just said before plus…
“But there will be no friends coming to your party anymore because you won’t have a birthday party anymore.” Then I re-enacted my sad face at her once again.
In the past, she would have just sat down on the floor and cried loudly as she could. I would have to carried her forcefully outside through the thick crowd of customers to calm her down outside – in freezing cold temperature!
But today, I made a breakthrough. She said slowly with a sad voice:
“But I want a party…”
I could see her hands dropping the Frozen Castle Easter Eggs down in slow motion. I opened my hand and she gave it to me. Horrah!
It felt Amazing!! I wanted to jump and dance – but just in case I would hyper up my soon to be threeanger again (Sob!), I just told her that she was a good listener and that she has listen well to mummy. I put back the Froze Castle back on the shelf and reached out my hand to her. She accepted my hand and we continued to shop M&S in peace. Fewww!
So that’s my #1,2 & 4 points referring to Sonia’s post a nutshell!
1. Stick to your guns.
2. If you say no to me, I’m going to say no to you.
3. Try to avoid questions and use statements instead.
Please do pop over to Sonia’s blog for more great tips.
Like Soina, if you have any tips to share, I need all of the help I can get!! If not, please send wine! xx
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