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Becoming A Threeager

Becoming Threeager

 

This post was inspired by Sonia at Buzymum: 6 Ways To Change Mr.No-Mummy into Mr.Yes-Mummy! who had linked up at #FabFridayPost Linky #69.

She points out 6 inspirational tips to how to deal with kids when it come down to being firm.

This has got me thinking back on what had happened today. Inside a busy Marks & Spencer Evelyn and I entered, and she was almost immediately faced with a gigantic Frozen Castle Easter Eggs style on the shelf and it was within her reach! She instantly grabbed it and said:

“I want it!”

I knelt down and said to her calmly as I can that she can’t have it as it is not her birthday yet and she won’t get a birthday party otherwise. Then I pulled a said face at her. She quickly snapped back at me:

“No! I DON’T want a birthday party! I want this!” She stomp her feet hard against the ground and moving a step back away from me.

Becoming Threeager

I took a deep breath and in a deep voice, I told her to listen to mummy again and repeated what I had just said before plus…

“But there will be no friends coming to your party anymore because you won’t have a birthday party anymore.” Then I re-enacted my sad face at her once again.

In the past, she would have just sat down on the floor and cried loudly as she could. I would have to carried her forcefully outside through the thick crowd of customers to calm her down outside – in freezing cold temperature!

But today, I made a breakthrough. She said slowly with a sad voice:

“But I want a party…”

I could see her hands dropping the Frozen Castle Easter Eggs down in slow motion. I opened my hand and she gave it to me. Horrah!

It felt Amazing!! I wanted to jump and dance – but just in case I would hyper up my soon to be threeanger again (Sob!), I just told her that she was a good listener and that she has listen well to mummy. I put back the Froze Castle back on the shelf and reached out my hand to her. She accepted my hand and we continued to shop M&S in peace. Fewww!

So that’s my #1,2 & 4 points referring to Sonia’s post a nutshell!

1. Stick to your guns.

2. If you say no to me, I’m going to say no to you.

3. Try to avoid questions and use statements instead.

Please do pop over to Sonia’s blog for more great tips.

Like Soina, if you have any tips to share, I need all of the help I can get!! If not, please send wine! xx

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36 Comments

  1. Leah Munden
    17/02/2017 / 11:32 am

    I’m dreading this when my boy is older. He’s 14 months at the moment and can have a good strop, but I know it’s nothing compared to what it could possibly be when hes older. I’m going to have to remember these tips 🙂 #FabFridayPost

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  3. Aedin
    17/02/2017 / 3:04 pm

    Oh can relate to this so much!!It’s like I’m constantly saying no at the moment and then it’s all ‘you’re such a mean mummy!’ being thrown in my face. 🙁
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  4. Annette, Four Acorns
    17/02/2017 / 4:44 pm

    Well done for turning this around! Now that my four are above the age of 3 and in school/daycare most days, I have the luxury of shopping by myself, thus avoiding these situations. xx
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  5. chloe
    17/02/2017 / 6:30 pm

    Hi, these are great tips especially number two If you say no to me, I’m going to say no to you #FabFridayPost

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  6. Carolina Twin Mom / Mary Peterson
    17/02/2017 / 8:45 pm

    Ah, it was a beautiful time for me when my kids finally got the whole cause-and-effect thing! Life should get much easier for here on out (except for the days when she’ll backslide, because boy, does that happen too)! #FabFridayPost

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  7. five little doves
    17/02/2017 / 9:06 pm

    I so need these tips! We’ve got Harry about to turn three in May and with Megan already three, and Eva just three before her, these threenage years have dragged!! I would love to say that four is easier but I’m really not sure it is, I’m hoping five is! #fabfridaypost
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  8. Elizabeth
    17/02/2017 / 9:11 pm

    Ah yes, the wonderful age of 3…it follows so closely on all the tantrums of 2. I have 3 over 3 now, and one 2 year old, and one new baby due any day now. Being firm is so important. If the kiddos don’t learn any boundaries now, they’ll run all over everyone and hurt themselves when they get older. These moments are so hard!

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  9. Jade - Raw Childhood
    18/02/2017 / 2:01 am

    We use the same tactics here. Luckily my eldest has never been the type to throw himself on the floor in a tantrum but my youngest already has it down to a tea so I am not looking too far into the future with this one lol #fabfridaypost
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  10. claire
    18/02/2017 / 9:26 am

    This is great! It just goes to show calm and reason can defuse a tantrum before it really starts! (not every time, I know!) I always try to use this method and know that when I don’t react by listening but snap etc then I get a more negative result, it has really taught me patience! xx #fabfridaypost
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  11. Peachy and her Mommy
    18/02/2017 / 4:08 pm

    I remember reading that post ages ago. It was really good. I’m glad you were able to make it work in a real life situation. #FabFridayPost

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  12. yvonne
    19/02/2017 / 9:31 am

    I am definitely going to try this out! I am glad it worked for you, sounds way better than the alternative x #FabFridayPost

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  14. Madeline (this Glorious Life)
    19/02/2017 / 6:39 pm

    I had something similar in the chemist last week, when my 2 year old picked up a my little pony soft toy and refused to put it back. I stuck to my guns, explained that she couldn’t have it and then let her hold it until we had paid for the things we were buying then she had to put it back. Luckily she went along with that! x #TheList
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  17. Lisa Pomerantz
    21/02/2017 / 8:05 pm

    I gotta say, this works in business too! 🙂 #FabFridayPost

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